1. You cannot succeed if you cannot get along with other people
Hill attaches great importance to the ability to be a person in a million. And the point is not so much how you look, but how you build communication with people around you.
Successful people have many useful connections, they have many friends who are ready to help them with pleasure. How do they achieve this? “The first step to gaining the sympathy of others is to start loving them,” Hill says. Successful people know how to please, not so much because of innate charm, but because they care about their own reputation and value other people. The secret is to be sincere.
Most people, one way or another, feel falsehood and recognize selfish intentions.
Greg Reid, author of Stickability, recommends becoming a kind of positive paranoid. That is, it is more often to imagine that the whole world is united not against, but for you. He claims that this exercise works great and helps to become more open to new positive relationships.
It was the ability to get along with others, according to Hill, that helped entrepreneur Charles Schwab to rise from an engineer to the president of the company with an annual salary of $ 75 thousand and a bonus of $ 1 million. It should be noted that at that time it was astronomical amounts. The Schwab boss, the legendary industrialist Andrew Carnegie, once said: "The salary was paid to Schwab for doing his job, and the bonus was because Schwab could make others do with his charm."
It is clear that no one likes pessimists, whiners and evil cynics, they are shunned. But what about those who do not have Schwab's charisma in order to please people and enlist their support? First of all, be positive and friendly. When you communicate with someone, your interlocutor should be at this moment for you the most important person in the world.
Speak less, listen more. And the point is not to feed someone else's ego. Try to understand how you could be useful to this person. Do at least one good deed per day. The most successful networkers are people who help other people without expecting anything in return.
Learn to maintain composure and endurance in all situations. An overly emotional reaction, regardless of what events it is caused by, joyful or sad, can unpleasantly surprise others. Be patient, choose the right time for your words and actions. People don't have to know everything you think.
Try to be objective, do not immediately reject ideas and opinions that do not correspond to your ideas. If you communicate only with those who think the same way you do, you run the risk of missing many interesting opportunities. Including career.
Smile more! They say that this technique was perfectly mastered by US President Franklin Roosevelt, and it was a smile that allowed him to melt ice when the person he was talking with was incredulous and suspicious.
Praise others, but sincerely and for the cause. Having gone too far with flattery, you run the risk of gaining a reputation for a sneak. How not to overdo it? Learn to see good in people and admire sincerely.
Remember that it’s impossible to please everyone and you should not pretend to be. Successful people win sympathy because they simply care about their behavior and reputation. As a rule, they have true friends who are always honest with them and are ready to point out errors.
2. You cannot succeed if you give up difficulties
In his speech, Napoleon Hill cited Thomas Edison, whom he had previously interviewed. The inventor went through a huge amount of materials before he managed to create an incandescent lamp.
“One defeat is enough to force the average person to retreat. Perhaps this is why there are so many average people and only one Thomas Edison, ”says Hill.
Successful people learn from their own failures, instead of nurturing them. And in fact, those around them appreciate the successes of those who found strength in themselves after failure to move on. Failure, a negative assessment of your abilities by an expert can unbalance. But only you decide whether this will be a sentence for you. If you have to deal with this (or have already had to), re-read the examples below.
With one of the first screen tests, the future master of the musical genre in cinema Fred Astaire came out with the following verdict: “Not able to sing. Not able to play. Slightly balding. A little able to dance. " Aster did not stop it, and he became a legend of Hollywood and Broadway.
Teachers told Thomas Edison that he was "too stupid to learn anything." However, he registered more than 1 thousand patents, and some of his inventions, such as a phonograph and movie camera, changed the world.
James Dyson, before starting his vacuum cleaner in production, created 5,126 unsuccessful prototypes and spent all the money he had saved in 15 years. Now the Dyson brand is one of the most
Hill attaches great importance to the ability to be a person in a million. And the point is not so much how you look, but how you build communication with people around you.
Successful people have many useful connections, they have many friends who are ready to help them with pleasure. How do they achieve this? “The first step to gaining the sympathy of others is to start loving them,” Hill says. Successful people know how to please, not so much because of innate charm, but because they care about their own reputation and value other people. The secret is to be sincere.
Most people, one way or another, feel falsehood and recognize selfish intentions.
Greg Reid, author of Stickability, recommends becoming a kind of positive paranoid. That is, it is more often to imagine that the whole world is united not against, but for you. He claims that this exercise works great and helps to become more open to new positive relationships.
It was the ability to get along with others, according to Hill, that helped entrepreneur Charles Schwab to rise from an engineer to the president of the company with an annual salary of $ 75 thousand and a bonus of $ 1 million. It should be noted that at that time it was astronomical amounts. The Schwab boss, the legendary industrialist Andrew Carnegie, once said: "The salary was paid to Schwab for doing his job, and the bonus was because Schwab could make others do with his charm."
It is clear that no one likes pessimists, whiners and evil cynics, they are shunned. But what about those who do not have Schwab's charisma in order to please people and enlist their support? First of all, be positive and friendly. When you communicate with someone, your interlocutor should be at this moment for you the most important person in the world.
Speak less, listen more. And the point is not to feed someone else's ego. Try to understand how you could be useful to this person. Do at least one good deed per day. The most successful networkers are people who help other people without expecting anything in return.
Learn to maintain composure and endurance in all situations. An overly emotional reaction, regardless of what events it is caused by, joyful or sad, can unpleasantly surprise others. Be patient, choose the right time for your words and actions. People don't have to know everything you think.
Try to be objective, do not immediately reject ideas and opinions that do not correspond to your ideas. If you communicate only with those who think the same way you do, you run the risk of missing many interesting opportunities. Including career.
Smile more! They say that this technique was perfectly mastered by US President Franklin Roosevelt, and it was a smile that allowed him to melt ice when the person he was talking with was incredulous and suspicious.
Praise others, but sincerely and for the cause. Having gone too far with flattery, you run the risk of gaining a reputation for a sneak. How not to overdo it? Learn to see good in people and admire sincerely.
Remember that it’s impossible to please everyone and you should not pretend to be. Successful people win sympathy because they simply care about their behavior and reputation. As a rule, they have true friends who are always honest with them and are ready to point out errors.
2. You cannot succeed if you give up difficulties
In his speech, Napoleon Hill cited Thomas Edison, whom he had previously interviewed. The inventor went through a huge amount of materials before he managed to create an incandescent lamp.
“One defeat is enough to force the average person to retreat. Perhaps this is why there are so many average people and only one Thomas Edison, ”says Hill.
Successful people learn from their own failures, instead of nurturing them. And in fact, those around them appreciate the successes of those who found strength in themselves after failure to move on. Failure, a negative assessment of your abilities by an expert can unbalance. But only you decide whether this will be a sentence for you. If you have to deal with this (or have already had to), re-read the examples below.
With one of the first screen tests, the future master of the musical genre in cinema Fred Astaire came out with the following verdict: “Not able to sing. Not able to play. Slightly balding. A little able to dance. " Aster did not stop it, and he became a legend of Hollywood and Broadway.
Teachers told Thomas Edison that he was "too stupid to learn anything." However, he registered more than 1 thousand patents, and some of his inventions, such as a phonograph and movie camera, changed the world.
James Dyson, before starting his vacuum cleaner in production, created 5,126 unsuccessful prototypes and spent all the money he had saved in 15 years. Now the Dyson brand is one of the most
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